Lifestyle: If You Want a Gentlemen/Lady...

This post may be a little controversial and it is only my personal opinion on the matter - so pretty please bare that in mind! I don't mind a good discussion but just no arguments please! I did ask on my facebook page whether I should post this or not and the result was yes so here it is...

This is a subject I'm asked about a lot... And it seems as if some people do want the old fashioned way to come back. I'm an admirer of the old school way and the way to act, yes we may be in the modern day but does it hurt to want to be an old school lady every once in a while? 

Issue 1 - Girls...

I often hear a lot of girls (and by girls I mean teenagers around the age of 14 - 16) say they want a true gentlemen to hold the door for them, and be a "man". However there are a couple of issues with this... 

If you want a guy to be a gentlemen, why don't you act a little more like a lady? It bugs me when girls who seem to think swearing constantly and acting like a man will attract a gentlemen... It doesn't necessarily work. For example, if you went for a job interview at a rather posh shop lets say, would you turn up in a skirt that just covers your bum and your boobs on full display? For me personally, I've changed a whole lot in the past 2 years alone - I used to swear all the time and never really acted like a lady, but now I dress accordingly and I act like a lady, I have gentlemen of all ages hold the door open for me, help me with my suitcases and heck, I even had 2 train guards at Clapham junction come over to me, just to tell me how beautiful I looked and helped me put my heavy suitcase on the train! If you want to get a gentlemen, then act like a lady, its really not that hard!

I'm not saying you have to be like the royal family, not at all, but just have manners and be polite and don't dress as if you are working at a strip club... (Personal opinion there... Oh Controversy!)

Issue 2 - Boys
Okay I'm going to be fair here, I feel sorry for you guys. Girls can be real bitchy sometimes and you are just expected to read our minds as if you know everything going on in our heads (dang us girls are complicated!). I only have 2 main issues regarding men... The 1st being don't have that chauvinistic attitude where you tell the woman to "make you a sandwich" or "go to the kitchen" that is not being a gentlemen - that is sexist. A woman will do them things for you if you RESPECT her, not if you are damn well derogatory to her and just expect her to do it anyway. The 2nd issue being... MAKE AN EFFORT. Personally, I'm a sucker for a man in a 3 piece suit (and a beard, but that's a whole other personal thing) and I've been on so many dates where the guy has just made no effort what so ever, I'm not saying dress as if you are going to a Michelin Star restaurant, but making a little bit of an effort with aftershave and a nice pair of trousers and a casual shirt won't hurt! Girls, whether we say it or not, do look for the physical features in a man - not saying you have to be Brad Pitt because each person has their own taste!

Issue 3 - Chivalry
This is my ultimate issue with the whole being a gentlemen thing... I like a man that can hold the door open for me and treat me like a lady but still respect that I am a human being and I can cope on my own. A lot of people, in my opinion, now days seem to think that if a man is chivalrous to a lady, that she is incapable of doing it herself - which is wrong. Another idea is, that people think chivalry is about treating just women correctly... BIG FAT NO. 

Chivalry is about being polite and a gentlemen to everyone, for example instead of just helping a lady you like across the street, why don't you help an elderly person? If you are a gentlemen to everyone, then that will attract the right woman! For me personally, I find it super attractive if a man helps or is a gentlemen to other people. 

Sorry for the rather ranty post, but it's something that is kind of a big deal for me and people often seem to have the wrong perception of chivalry that its just to be used towards women when really you should be a gentlemen all the time! And girls just don't seem to understand that the way you act and dress could attract the wrong sort of person that you don't desire to be with.

Its all about self perception, for me, I want a real gentlemen, not just one who is doing it for the sake of it, but is doing it because that is what he truly believes. 

Any who...

Next Saturday's post will be a review of the Soap and Glory Powder Palette - so nothing as heavy as this post!

Lots of Love Petals

Emma Victoria

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100 Little Things Part 1!

I was tagged to do this lovely post by my friend of many years Steff from Stephanie Maverick (go check her blog out, its awesome!!). Basically, you can find out 100 facts about me - good and bad! Decided it will be best to maybe do this in 2 parts, seeing as it will be quite lengthy otherwise. So today will be the first 50 facts!!

1. I've always been naturally blonde - and I absolutely hate the attention I get from my hair... Every single day.

2. I'm really getting into Psychobilly at the moment. 

3.  I can't stop listening to Teenage Zombie by the Sugar Daddy's right now.

4. Every time I hear the "Time Warp" song, I burst into dance and song - it doesn't matter where it is, I will do it.

5.  I used to suffer really badly with depression right up until March this year - I'm still recovering now, but a huge improvement from 4 years ago.

6. I'm way too nice and forgiving for my own good a lot of the time.

7. I have a major woman crush on Elly Mayday, Imelda May and Bernie Dexter - not afraid to say it.

8.  When £200 goes into my account - its normally spent with 48 hours of it going in.

9. I probably have way too many clothes, but I can't face to throw them out.

10. My favourite lipstick at the moment is probably still my Estee Lauder one from the 1980's.
11. I have 14 red lipsticks. I'm obsessed.
12. I love my dogs too the end of the world and back and I'd do anything for them.
13. When I move out and have my own flat I will get a British Bulldog named Winston. 
14. I'm forever dreaming to one day go in a Hudson Hornet - this will complete my life.
15. I have loads of tattoo's planned to get, but I'm too broke to afford them right now. Food is slightly more important I think...
16. I've been modelling for just little over a year now.
17. I'm slightly obsessed with the TV shows Republic of Doyle and Castle.
18. Pretty sure my old drama teacher had a vendetta against me... FOR EVERYTHING.
19. When I act posh to my dogs I always call them Frederick and Alison.
20. One day I would love to fall in love with a gentlemen who isn't so obsessed with sex all the time and will love me for who I am. 
21. I love it when guys hold the door open for me.
22. I've never been clubbing.
23. My favourite alcoholic drink is a toss up between Pepsi and a double Malibu or Cranberry Juice and a Double Malibu. 
24. I haven't been on a date in nearly 1 year and 8 months.
25. My last crush used me, lied to me, and broke my heart - and I found that all out by reading his blog post.
26. I underestimate actually how good I am at cooking.
27. It takes me 30 minutes each day to groom Alice's fur and 5 minutes for Freddie's fur. 
28. I already know what I want my wedding dress to look like.
29. I've already started Christmas shopping and making personal gifts for my nearest and dearest.
30. My biggest fear is clowns - I virtually have a panic attack every time I see one. Last year at the London Tombs + a clown = extremely scared Emma.
31. I absolutely love to play conkers.
32. My favourite film is probably the Corpse Bride.
33. I'm obsessed with Gingerbread Biscuits - they will go in a matter of minutes if you leave me alone with them.
34. I have a serious problem with the shop Collectif - if I could afford to buy their whole shop, I probably would.
35. I've already started planning my Christmas decorations... That reminds me, I need new lights!
36. I already know what I want my life to be when I'm older. I know you shouldn't plan ahead, but dreaming is no harm. I want 3 children and a gentlemen husband.
37. I do want a career, but sometimes I just want to settle down. I know that sounds silly, but I'm very old-fashioned to be quite honest.
38. I seem to be very accident prone. Already been to the minor injuries unit 3 times this year, and the doctors... well I lost count how many times with the doctors.
39. I want to be the perfect wife when I'm older.
40. I'm looking for a new, less stressful, less hours job. Still no luck...
41. My college isn't exactly Oxford or Cambridge, but the teachers are okay - I guess.
42. I really want to go back to Finland or Sweden.
43. I love baking cakes and cupcakes and biscuits and.... Okay I just love baking.
44. My body confidence post is the most viewed post on my blog - good going if I say so myself!
45. I love slippers.
46. I'm more of a dog person then a cat person.
47. If there is a coupon or a really good offer in the shop - I will stock up.
48. Chocolate is my best friend when I feel really upset.
49. When I'm older I want an Autumn wedding - the beautiful colours of the leafs just amaze me.
50. My favourite dish to cook is a 'spanish' style chicken - chicken thighs, chorizo, peppers, mushrooms, tomatoes and spices!

I will post the next 50 facts about me next Sunday! I hope you find out something out about me that you didn't already know! If you feel like doing this post then make sure you leave a link in the comments cause I'd love to have a read! I'm also going to tag Bella Ella from BellaEllaLife cause I'd love to know more about her!

I'm only 10 followers away from 50 - make sure you follow so the giveaway can be released! 

Much Love

Emma Victoria

xoxox